Years of negativity and depression

Anthony from Calgary, Canada

I can't stand my wife's depression any more thats why I'm writing this lifemates complaint. We've been married for eighteen years now and she's still depressed on a constant basis like she was in the beginning. I spent years and years sitting with the best therapists and counselors in Canada trying to help her. I've tried every method and exercise in the getting over your depression book. For years, I've put up with her moping around, crying all day, piles of complaints and going days without talking or even getting out of bed. Eighteen years is plenty of time for a person to work on him self. My lifemate has not moved a single step in the direction of bettering herself in eighteen years. I can't take it any more. All she does is order me around. She's threatened to kill herself thousands of times in the past and now, it's so bad that my kids can't take it any more. Last week, after she made the same threat that she always does, my son said “just do us all a favor and do it already. If you want to kill yourself, then do it”. I know he didn't mean it, but out of frustration he just said it. I don't blame him. He's only twelve years old and he's been around this his whole life. What kind of life is that? I've heard every kind complaint you can think of from my kids and they're right. I know that leaving her will do more harm than good for her but sometimes a person has to look out for himself also.